Simply A Farmer’s Wife


This Girl’s Got Skills
February 27, 2008, 9:03 pm
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My niece has been playing soccer since she was three and she’s good.  Really good.  She tried out last year for a Challenge team and made it without hesitation.  She was one of the most impressive kids who tried out.   We love going to watch her play because each year she gets better and better.  She is truly talented!  It’s hard to take good shots of her because I get so excited but thought I’d share a few with blog land. 

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Courage.
February 26, 2008, 12:17 pm
Filed under: Uncategorized

A very dear friend shared this with me and I’m grateful and thankful she did.

“Courage does not always roar.  Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says I’ll try again tomorrow.”

~Mary Anne Radmacher



Just Speechless.
February 21, 2008, 11:04 pm
Filed under: Friends

I knew I had amazing friends but I never imagined the outpour I got and am still getting.  It’s beyond comforting.  I seriously am speechless.  Thank you each so much from the bottom of my heart. 

This journey is overwhelming to say the least but with friends like mine hell I can get through anything. 



My Place In This World
February 20, 2008, 10:12 pm
Filed under: CDH, CDH Awareness, Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia, Family, Loss, Love, Parker, Prayer, Sadness

The last few days have been hard.  Really hard.  I started blogging because I needed a form of therapy without really going to see a therapist.  I didn’t want to be one of those people.  You know that kind that need saving.  I didn’t want others looking at me as though I was weak.  Or crazy.  I wanted to shield myself and make others believe that I was okay.  The truth is folks I’m not okay. 

I am weak.

I am fragile. 

I am mad. 

I am angry. 

I am hurt. 

I am lost. 

This journey, aka grief, is one that I was never prepared for.  Saturday Ashley and I went to look for headstones.  Imagine that for a moment.  I mean actually imagine it.  Two people.  Husband and wife.  One 31 years old and the other 27 years old.  Walking around the hundreds of headstones like two zombies.  Neither of us could keep from crying.  And just being pissed off.  Our daughter is turning two in a few months and instead of buying her toys or clothes we are purchasing her a headstone.  It’s definitely not what we had planned but it’s our lives. 

We found one.  I guess it’s perfect.  I mean nothing in my eyes could ever be good enough for our little girl.  We are happy with it and what it will say.  We go to order it on Saturday.  I felt like I had had the wind knocked out of me that day.   Have you ever had that dream where you are running from someone and you are screaming but no sound comes out?  Yeah that’s my life on a daily basis.  I feel like I’m screaming and no one is hearing me.    I will never be the person I was I suppose.  I don’t know that I want to be that person again.  I wasn’t happier then but hell I’m not happy now.  I am so surprised that I’m still married.  That he hasn’t gotten up and walked out.  God I wouldn’t blame him if he did.   I am such a mean person.  I am such an angry person.  Most of my life is a lie.  It’s one big facade.  I do and say what makes others happy because I can’t stand the looks I get or the lectures.  I am just so sick of it. 

I just want my little girl back.  I want to hold her one more time.  I want to kiss her lips again.  I want to smell her.  If  I had known my time with her was so limited I would have memorized every detail of her.  I would have never left her side.   I go to her grave more often now than I was.  I enjoy my talks with her.  And yeah I know she’s not there.  A grave is a place for those left behind to memorialize and grieve at.  I realize my daughter’s soul was never there as she had a place in Heaven long before she took her last breath.  The grave yard is a very peaceful place.  I read her stories every now and then.  I imagine myself rocking her as she twists my hair and sucks her thumb.  The images of her are vivid.   So much so they are heartbreaking.

Most people don’t realize that grief isn’t just an emotional pain but a physical one too.  There are days when my body hurts so bad for her that I can’t sleep.  I made an appointment today to go see my doctor and get back on some medication.  I need it.  I know I’m not right without it.  I know that one day I will be but that day isn’t today.   And tomorrow my mission is to find someone to talk to.  Someone far more qualified than this blog.  Someone who can help me find my place in this world. 

We aren’t ready to be parents again.   That too is heartbreaking as 10 of my friends are pregnant.  My joy for them gets lost sometimes because of my own fears and insecurities.  It’s not fair to them and what kind of friend am I?  Really. 

My faith in God is steadfast.  I trust Him.  And there are days when I refuse to let go but I know once I do He’s there waiting on me.  I wish I could give Him control.  I wish I could find the peace I pretend to have.  I wish I was as happy as everyone thought I was.  But more than anything my wish is to find myself again.  To find God’s grace in everything.  Not just the good but the bad too.  To not be so contradicting.  To be more trusting.  To learn to love again.  I am terrified of loving again.  I never knew that kind of love until I knew Parker.  It’s amazing beyond words.  And her death can’t take that away.  Nothing can.  I will love her to the ends of the earth and back, Always. 

Please lift us up in prayer as we travel this journey with no tour guide or map.  We are winging it y’all.   And gosh neither of us are really good at stuff like this.  Prayer is a powerful thing people.   We have witnessed that fact many times.  If nothing else I hold onto the promises He has made me.   So that’s all for tonight.   I am off to try and get some sleep.  To try and find that one dream where is everything is perfect. 



Happy Birthday David.
February 19, 2008, 4:16 pm
Filed under: CDH, CDH Awareness, Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia, Family, Friends, Loss, Love, Prayer, Sadness

Today he celebrates his first birthday in Heaven. 

Please pray for Crystal, Justin and Jonathan.

They are amazing people with an amazing story.



Finally…. Reb and Kelly Update
February 14, 2008, 11:48 am
Filed under: Uncategorized

It has taken me some time update about this because one I’ve been super busy and two I hadn’t downloaded the pictures until today. 

What an AWESOME experience y’all!  The Crown Colesium is a small place which makes for a great concert and great seats no matter where you sit.  Our tickets weren’t awesome (floor) but they weren’t too shabby either.   And thanks to my first year anniversary gift I was getting some awesome shots of the gals. 

Melissa Peterman better known as Barbara Jean did her stand up comedy for about 35-45 minutes and introduced Kelly and Reba.  She was quite hilarious and that girl has lost some weight!  She looks awesome and is just as funny in person as she is on the show. 

The show lasted two and half hours!  It was amazing!  I truly wish that y’all could have been there with me.  Ashley and I both sat on the edge of our seat anxioulsy awaiting to go back stage.  When the concert was over we both made our way through the crowd and were directed by what are no officially the dumbest poeople alive.  They sent us in several different directions all of them wrong.  We finally got downstairs and presented our All Access passes and made our way to the backstage area.  We met up with Jeff King (member of the band and family) and were told we missed Reba.  She had left already!  Yep, you heard me right!  Jeff said he came out to look for us but couldn’t find us.  That’s because some idiots had us going everywhere but where we were supposed to be going!  Ugh.  So anyway we are backstage and talking to Jeff when none other than Kelly Clarkson comes by and speaks to us.  Yes, she talked to us!  What a friendly person!  I mean of course because she’s from Texas!  Duh….  She had no makeup on and was in her pj’s so we weren’t allowed to take pictures.  She is a super nice person and what an honor to meet her.  We later went to tour the buses and hung out with both bands for a while.  It was a blast.  They were all so in awe of Ashley’s profession and even asked him to bring them some peanuts next time there were in town.  We were told that we always had backstage passes when they were in town. 

This was a great experience and something we will never forget.  So next time I’m meeting Reba come hell or high water.  Enjoy the pictures and video y’all! (I’m working on the video.  Tried to upload last night and it wouldn’t work)

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Congratulations, Jeremy And Amber
February 13, 2008, 10:06 pm
Filed under: Family, Love, Marriage

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So my brother and his fiance eloped to Vegas!  He was there on business and she surprised him today!  There were married shortly after her arrival! 

We are so happy to have Amber has part of our family!  I could not be happier for them and wish them a lifetime of love and happiness!!!

CONGRATULATIONS, JEREMY AND AMBER!!!!