Simply A Farmer’s Wife


So Much To Be Thankful For.
November 24, 2008, 11:46 pm
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It’s hard to believe that Thanksgiving is less than 3 days away.  This year we have so much to be thankful for and we know that all our blessings come from God. 

The last few years have been hard on us.  Really hard.  Losing Parker took so much out of us and changed who we forever are as individuals and as husband and wife.  The holidays haven’t always been so kind because they’ve been constant reminders of what we lost.  How ever were we supposed to be thankful at Thanksgiving when our daughter was dead?  How were we supposed to be excited about Christmas when we had nothing to celebrate because our daughter was dead?  Holidays will never have the same meaning to us as they did before.  The anticipation of her getting up early Christmas morning to see what Santa left is gone.  It was gone before it ever started.  We’ve come a long way since May 8, 2006 at 5:00 a.m.  The moment she left our lives in her Daddy’s arms.  I didn’t know how we would make it.  I didn’t believe we would.  I thought we’d be that tragic story where our marriage couldn’t survive and we’d be another statistic.  We aren’t though.  We survived her death.  Together.  It wasn’t always easy and there were days we both questioned if we’d make it.  If we even wanted to be together anymore.  We stayed together somedays because of Parker.  For no other reason but her.  And today we are more in love than we were 4 years ago.  Our marriage still isn’t perfect but we love each other and we made a vow before God that we’d be in this for better or worse and that’s exactly what we are going to do.  Some days are lighter than others but together we’ll make it through the darkest and lightest days of our lives. 

There is so much to be thankful for.  So much to praise God for.  I know that I am where I am today because of our Lord.  For those of you who don’t believe in the power of prayer look at Ashley and me.  We are proof that prayer works.  God does answer prayers. 

Our holidays will never be the same but each year our smile comes back a little bigger because with each year we find more peace in Parker’s death.  God is rebuilding our lives day by day and sometimes minute by minute.  And this time we are letting Him.  He has done some amazing work in our lives and letting Him take control is the best thing we ever did.  Not the easiest but definitely the best. 

Wednesday night we are going to be driving up to Hillsborough.  We will meet the family who are moving in tomorrow and meeting Carter.   He is in Duke.  A place we haven’t set foot in since Parker died almost 3 years ago.  Typing it gives me goosebumps and makes me nauseous.  Please pray that God will give us strength, wisdom and courage.  We are taking up a home cooked Thanksgiving meal to both families and cannot wait to see them all.  The new family, Mark and Kristin, delivered a boy in Jacksonville yesterday undiagnosed.  Please keep them and the Myers in your prayers.   Also, say a special prayer for April and Russell Van Dyke.  This holiday will be the first without Seth.  It’s hard and they’ll need us and our prayers.  They are a special family. 

We hope that each of you have a wonderful holiday with family and friends.  I’ll update again before the big day but just in case I don’t get a chance as I have some cleaning and cooking to do take the time to list your things to be thankful for this year and when you do thank God for each of them.



Remembering Our Babies.
October 15, 2008, 7:02 pm
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Today is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day.  Please take a moment tonight to remember those lost.  Since being diagnosed with CDH almost 3 years ago we have met so many wonderful people whose lives have been changed by the loss of their baby and today we remember them all. 

They will always be loved and never forgotten.



Prayers Needed.
October 10, 2008, 10:34 am
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Please continue to pray for Carter as he was put on ECMO last night.  He and his family need our thoughts and prayers.  Take a peek at their blog and send them some good thoughts! 

They are an amazing family!



Awesome News.

I’ve been meaning to share this with y’all for quite some time now but just haven’t had the opportunity to really sit down and spend some quality time on it.  So today I decided that I would just do it before I forgot again or didn’t have the time.  Story of my life.

Anyway, Brad and Kellie Myers are staying at Parker’s House right now.  Actually they are at Duke right now in labor and hopefully Carter makes his grand entrance soon.  On their multiple trips to Duke they shared with the doctors up there about The Parker Reese Foundation and Parker’s House and the doctors started asking questions.  They wanted more information and were impressed with our mission to help CDH families.  So, long story short they asked for our info and we made some contacts and are in the process of scheduling a meeting with the CDH team at Duke for possible sponsorship.  I have spoken with 5 doctors, one was actually Parker’s doctor, and a social worker.  They are all very interested in working with our foundation on many different levels and supporting Parker’s House.  This news is overwhelming and I cannot even begin to explain what it will mean for families of CDH.  We are so excited to be working so  closely with one of the top facilities in North Carolina that we have to continue to pinch ourselves. 

We still cannot believe that after 10 months our foundation has grown to be what it is today.  We are so proud of all the people behind the scene that give countless hours of their own time and money.  We are so blessed to have the sponsors we do.  And we are especially blessed  that people are praying for our mission.  We believe first hand that prayer is powerful and it’s why we always ask you to say one for us and for all families past, present and future. 

We are in the process of opening our Chapter in Texas and are super excited about that.  We’ll have a Chapter in Texas y’all!  How freaking awesome is that?  Before long there will be a Chapter in every state.  We will change the face of CDH as we know it today.  We are making great efforts and strides to fund research, advocate awareness and support families affected by CDH. 

I am proud of what we’ve accomplished thus far and I know that with time our foundation will be even greater than it is today.  There are days when I question if I can do this or if I have the energy to do this and then I’ll get an email from a family and it confirms that I’m doing the right thing.  

We have some other really awesome things up our sleeves and I cannot wait to share those with y’all as they develop.  We are going to have a huge open house/anniversary party for Parker’s House next year so y’all start making plans to be there!! 

 



October 6, 2008, 3:15 pm
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There are several things I want to mention so here goes:

  • John Michael Larson was born on 10-4-08 in Denver, CO.  He is a CDH baby.
  • Kellie will be induced tonight at 8 pm with Baby Carter.  I’ll update when I know more.
  • Pictures of Dedication (the few I took) are on the foundation  blog.
  • Round for Hope ™ is October 24 ,2008 in San Antonio, Texas. 
  • PRF Launch Party is December 6, 2008.
  • Heels of Hope™ starts February 27, 2009 lasting thru March 28, 2009 for Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia Awareness.  More to come later. 
  • There are only 80 more days until Christmas!  Eek!

Okay, things have been extremely busy the last week.  I thought it would slow down but I was so wrong.  I will udpate more later as I know this post is so blah.



Parker’s House Dedication Is Tomorrow.
September 26, 2008, 10:42 am
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And I’m freaking out.  I feel like I have a million things to do and only about 24 hours to do them in.  I need it to stop raining and I need it to be really nice tomorrow.  Not too hot and not too cold.   Tomorrow is an important day for Parker’s House and The Parker Reese Foundation.  It is a chance for those to see what it is we do for CDH families.  A day for all to  feel the amazing peace, hope and excitment that exudes from Parker’s House. 

We have had more stuff donated for Parker’s House in the last week than I could have ever imagined.  My car is full from front to back.  Enough space for me to put me.  Our living room is packed full of stuff.  We had to get a trailer from a friend to haul more stuff.  We are taking two vehicles tonight because we needed that much space.  Is that not amazing?  A true testament to God’s amazing work. 

I know that tomorrow will be a crazy day and I probably won’t have time to post until late Sunday.  I am super excited about Parker’s House and the people involved.  With each day that passes I become more driven and inspired to truly make a difference for CDH and the families it affects.  There will be several CDH families there tomorrow, along with their family members and ours, and some medical professionals.  We are counting down the hours and checking our list one last time. 

Please say a prayer for us tomorrow.  For Parker’s House.  For The Parker Reese Foundation.  For Brad, Kellie and Carter Meyers.  For April, Russell and Nash Van Dyke.  For the people who will be traveling hours to attend.  Pray for good weather. 

And please pray for my brother-in-law, Roger Solano, who leaves at 7 a.m. on Monday for a year deployment to Columbia, South America.  He has served 15 years in the United States Army and needs our prayers as he leaves behind my sister, Jennifer, my niece Karsen and my nephew, Caden.  He will be missed more than words could ever say but I know that this time he has a very special angel going with him.



It’s Happening Way Too Often Folks.
September 17, 2008, 3:01 pm
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CDH babies are dying too often and to be honest I’m so sick of it.  I am so tired of hearing that another baby has died.  That another family will know the pain that Ashley and I know.  That another family will have a void because their child is gone.  That another family will NEVER be the same. 

This shouldn’t be happening in 2008!  I am pissed off that parents are having to bury their children because of damn CDH!  It’s a freaking hole so why can’t we fix it?  I know it’s not that simple people but it seems like it should be. 

In the last two weeks we’ve lost William Ethan, Elliott Arcile and Kaden Morrow.  Those are just the ones we know about.  There are countless others. 

I am asking you today to step up and do something.  Donate, volunteer, educate others!  DO SOMETHING!  If you don’t know what to do email me at jes_singletary@yahoo.comand I’ll give you some suggestions.  If you live in the Texas area we are having a golf tournament in October in the San Antonio area.  You can play or you can sponsor a hole.  In order for us to find a cause and one day a cure we have to advocate for awareness and research.  It starts with us.  CDH families and friends.  It’s time we make a difference.  It’s time we save these babies.