Simply A Farmer’s Wife

Parker’s House – Part II
May 26, 2008, 10:56 am
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Parker’s House
May 25, 2008, 9:20 pm
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So, we went to the house today.  Driving up there I was filled with so many emotions.   I could feel her presence today.  I know she was there with us.  Giving her mommy and daddy a thumbs up.  This is real.  This is really happening y’all.  It seemed like such a dream until today.  We agreed today that we would contract “Parker’s House” for three years.  Can you believe that?  How awesome for CDH families! 

Well, it’s late and I have tons of work to do before the night is over.  I have included some pictures of the house.  Once it’s completely done I’ll take more.  I am putting together a list of things we need so if anyone is interested in donating please email me privately at 

Couldn’t Think of a Clever Title.
May 20, 2008, 9:52 pm
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There is so much going on right now in our lives.  I am working full-time at the law firm and then I come home and work full-time on the foundation.  Ashley is in the middle of planting season and working 10 hours a day unless he has a softball game, which happens to be three nights this week. 

I love watching him play.  Ashley is an amazing athlete!  It’s a huge commitment for him but he loves playing so I make sure I’m available to attend each game.  He hit a home run last night.  Not just any home run but a hellacious one! 

The foundation house is going great.  Thanks to Jenn we have a name.  Parker’s House.  I am having a wonderful sign made and cannot wait to show y’all.  We are going down there this weekend to take pictures and do some work.  We bought this great bunk beds for the kids room.  It’s a navy antiqued wash and will go perfect with the rest of what I have planned.  We had a furniture company donate a new leather couch and loveseat.  We are working on some more donations and are super excited about this project.  I truly believe that God has His hands in this project.  And I think He has a few angels assisting Him.  

I am constantly thinking of things that need to be done or bought.  It’s truly a hugh project and we have little time to get things in order.  Our first family should be in the home on June 17th.  They are April and Russell.  They are expecting a son, Seth, on July 6th.  Please continue to pray for this family as many of you know the journey CDH takes.   We are so excited that The Parker Reese Foundation is able to help this family.  It makes this all so real.  Two years ago I promised our daughter as she lay fighting for her life that I would make a difference in the CDH world.  That I would help a family like our own.  That I would do everything in my power to offer a safe place for families of CDH.  I never knew this is what it would feel like.  I see her smiling down on us.  Giving us a thumbs up.  We have so many other wonderful events planned and we are beyond excited about all the foundation will have to offer.  I am working on a blog right now.  The website it still being created and I’m saying my prayers that it will be done before the middle week of June.  There is so much work going into the site that it’s taking more time than we had anticipated. 

I am truly on cloud nine right now.  I am running on fumes these days and just trying to get done all that needs to be done within a days time.  There really aren’t enough hours in a day y’all.  This just seems like a dream most days.  But I’m living it.  And I’m enjoying every single minute.  Good and bad.  I  will probably walk away with a few more gray hairs ( I really do have them already) and maybe a few wrinkles but it will so be worth it. 

This journey has been so many things to me but never did I imagine that one day through all the tears I would be able to smile.  Thank you so much Parker for making me the person I am today.  For giving me this will and fight and courage.  For giving me hope.  For letting me make my mistakes and own them.  But more than anything thank you for giving me a reason to smile.  And thank you to each of you who have always been there for me and Ashley.  I am strapped in and ready for the rest of this ride.    Let’s see where it takes me…..


Going Shopping.
May 17, 2008, 10:06 am
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This will be a quick update as I will be heading out the door in a few to do some much needed therapeutic shopping. 

Please continue to pray for the people of China.  The devastation in that country is beyond comprehension.  There are new fears of the damns erupting and causing flooding.  These families need our prayers and this country needs our prayers. 

Also, pray for April and Russell.  They are a family here in NC that are delivering a son, Seth, in July with CDH.  This family is amazing and I am so honored to have gotten to know them. 

As always continue to pray for all families of CDH! 

We are doing good.  I will update more later but I’m out the door for now. 

Prayers for China.
May 13, 2008, 3:52 pm
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The death toll is up to 12,000 and 18, 000 are feared to be buried alive.  This country desperately needs our prayers and thoughts. 

Take a moment tonight to remember those who have been lost, those who are hurt and those who are yet to be found that they may find peace during this tragedy. 

Two Years Ago Today.
May 13, 2008, 7:59 am
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We buried our only child.  This day really sucks.

Update on P’s Birthday and Some Other Stuff.
May 8, 2008, 10:54 pm
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Well, it’s late so I am going to try and get everything in this one post because we are leaving for the lake tomorrow after work.  We are spending Mother’s Day away from here and with some family, friends and good food and drinks.  We are both really excited about going! 

First news.  Parker’s birthday was good.  We made it through as best we could.  We are obviously still scarred from her death but her birthday is a bittersweet day for us.  It is the day our daughter came into our lives and each year it is a remembrance of the what ifs and whys.  This year we smiled more than we cried.  Our lives will never be the same because of our little girl and we are both better people now.  We miss her more each day and are so blessed that we are her Mommy and Daddy.  We had a small balloon release at the grave and then came back to our house for food and cupcakes.  Her cupcakes were amazing!  When we picked them up we were both pleased to see what she had designed for Parker.  They were absolutely delicious!  As a matter of fact I just ate one.  Yummy!










Today was a bit tougher.  It’s the day she was taken from us.  So many mixed emotions ran through us today but somehow we managed to make it through with minor bruises.  I pulled her things out today and I lost it for a brief period of time.  I was overwhelmed with her presence and her smell.  All of her things were put in ziploc bags when she passed and everything still smells like her.  It is hard to believe that she has been gone for two years.  It is so hard going through her things but it brings back so many wonderful memories as well. 

We ordered her headstone today.  It was very hard to do but something we’ve been putting off for many reasons.  It’s done now.  We should get the proof in about 2 weeks to approve and then once we do it will be another 6-8 weeks before they deliver.  What we chose is perfect for her.  I hate that we are having to buy it but she deserves a marker.  We are both glad that we have it ordered and cannot wait to see the final product.  It was tough to swallow for us both but we’ve been through worse right?  I mean we buried our only child almost two years ago.  There is nothing worse than that. 

There is something that Ashley and I have had in the works for several months now.  Something we were going to keep hush hush until we received a certain approval but after an email we received on Tuesday we decided to go public.  When Parker was in the NICU I vowed to her that I would do everything in my power to help families like our own, to help and fund research, to adovate and to educate others about CDH.  That I would do everything I could to help find a cause. 

 In January 2008 we founded The Parker Reese Foundation.  We are a North Carolina nonprofit organization awaiting our 501c3 tax exempt status from the IRS.  We are very excited about the future of our foundation and the possibilities for families of CDH.  We have many wonderful people involved in the foundation either as officers or board of directors.  People who have stepped up and dedicated their time, energy and money into the mission of The Parker Reese Foundation.  We are eternally grateful to them for being a part of the foundation.

So, on Tuesday I was getting ready to leave work.  Wrapping up some loose ends before I took the next two days off when I got an email.  I purchased Pep (our German Shorthaired Pointer) last June for Ashley for Father’s Day and have kept in contact with the breeder somewhat since then.  He emailed me the most amazing email ever!  He and his wife own a home in Hillsbourough, NC which is between Durham and Chapel Hill where Duke and UNC Chapel Hill are located.  He got a promotion and had to move to Portsmouth, VA last May.  The house the have in NC is located on a farm.  It’s a gorgeous home surrounded by acres of land and trees.  A very peaceful place.  Long story short (because it’s really late now) he offered his home to families of CDH.  He said that he and his wife were very touched by Parker’s story and truly felt like we were brought into their lives for reason.  He knows that the average stay for CDH families is 6 months (from P’s website and his own research on CDH) and he wanted them to have a place that is peaceful and a place to call their own.  He had no idea about the foundation but after we told him he said that he truly felt Parker was talking to him.   He also said that he had started writing that particular email several times and had finally decided to just send it that day.  We are going to work out the details but I cannot even begin to tell each of you what this means to Ashley and I.  So many of you know what’s it like to be separated from your home and living in a hotel isn’t ideal and we all know that the RMH doesn’t always have space.  I cried when I read his email.  I cannot wait to get this project under the works and update each of you.  I will be calling him Saturday to work out some details and hope that once we get it going we can get some wonderful donations from local businesses.  We are constantly amazed at people’s generosity and kindness.  There is so much to do with the foundation but we are all kicking butt.  I have the greatest ladies on our team!!! 

If any of you are interested in helping please feel free to email me.  Okay, it’s late and I really need to go to bed.  No proofreading tonight.  I hope I got everything in like I wanted.